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Habits are conditioned repetitive actions we engage in without thinking. They can be beneficial or detrimental to our well-being. When the appropriate conditions present themselves, we're likely to engage in a habit, such as getting ready for work, smoking, or making judgments about others. We become just like Pavlov's dog who was conditioned to salivate at the sound of the bell even when meat wasn't present.
When you're considering changing a habit, it's important to know the answers to questions like, What are the reasons I cling to this habit? What will I lose if I give it up? How will I benefit if I do something different? Some philosophers and psychologists believe we either move toward those situations that bring us pleasure, or we move away from those that would bring us pain. Often times the fear of change immobilizes us when we've made up our minds that we're going to stop or start an action. If we look closely, we may also find that we have a fear of being our best because we don't believe deep inside that we really deserve it. Some of our bad habits serve as a punishment for what we erroneously believe to be what we deserve.
Changing a habit requires persistence and perseverance. Habits have usually been with us for a long time -- changing them overnight is an unrealistic expectation. Sometimes we get frustrated with our humanness -- we "fall off the wagon" and are reluctant to start again because we feel we've failed. Anything that's worth having or doing is going to take a steady investment of time, energy, and resources. There are few overnight successes -- if there are any at all. So it's important to keep your expectations realistic.
If we think of our habits as bad, then we erroneously believe that we too must be bad. And, if we were good enough, we wouldn't engage in such bad behavior in the first place. We'd be able to shake any bad habit with ease. Rather than thinking of habits as being good or bad, let's think of them as unconscious choices. To develop a habit that is beneficial for us, we must make conscious choices to do so.
To develop a new habit, you must consciously experience four states of mind -- awareness, knowledge, desire, and action.
Awareness comes from noticing what you're doing and when and where you're doing it. For instance, let's take the habit of making judgments about another person. The what is thinking about another's actions and their reasons for them. You judge that their actions, comments, or appearance are wrong. The when is when someone mentions their name, you're having a conversation with them, or you pass by the street on which they live. In this case, the where is wherever you happen to be.
Knowledge about your habit is the next state of mind to consider. What are some reasons we might judge others? Judgments about others usually come from our own insecurity. We feel we need to make others "look bad" so we'll "look good." Our judgments about others don't take away from the other person's worth. Neither do they add to our own feelings of worth. Our judgments have a negative impact on us -- we spend much time and energy attempting to diminish another person's value when we could use that same time and energy to build our sense of worth. Judgments also result from our belief that there is one right way [our way!] to do everything. If we judge another's appearance, we're assuming that there is a "right" and "wrong" way to dress and that they chose the wrong way. In the big scheme of things, what difference does it really make how one dresses? So learning about the impact that our habit has on ourselves and others is important. If we're vocal about our judgments, this habit can hurt another's feelings and reputation. It can be the source of contention between us and others.
Awareness and knowledge alone will not lead to behavior change. The facts about smoking are well-known. There are still millions of smokers in our society.
Habits are conditioned repetitive actions we engage in without thinking. They can be beneficial or detrimental to our well-being. When the appropriate conditions present themselves, we're likely to engage in a habit, such as getting ready for work, smoking, or making judgments about others. We become just like Pavlov's dog who was conditioned to salivate at the sound of the bell even when meat wasn't present.
When you're considering changing a habit, it's important to know the answers to questions like, What are the reasons I cling to this habit? What will I lose if I give it up? How will I benefit if I do something different? Some philosophers and psychologists believe we either move toward those situations that bring us pleasure, or we move away from those that would bring us pain. Often times the fear of change immobilizes us when we've made up our minds that we're going to stop or start an action. If we look closely, we may also find that we have a fear of being our best because we don't believe deep inside that we really deserve it. Some of our bad habits serve as a punishment for what we erroneously believe to be what we deserve.
Changing a habit requires persistence and perseverance. Habits have usually been with us for a long time -- changing them overnight is an unrealistic expectation. Sometimes we get frustrated with our humanness -- we "fall off the wagon" and are reluctant to start again because we feel we've failed. Anything that's worth having or doing is going to take a steady investment of time, energy, and resources. There are few overnight successes -- if there are any at all. So it's important to keep your expectations realistic.
If we think of our habits as bad, then we erroneously believe that we too must be bad. And, if we were good enough, we wouldn't engage in such bad behavior in the first place. We'd be able to shake any bad habit with ease. Rather than thinking of habits as being good or bad, let's think of them as unconscious choices. To develop a habit that is beneficial for us, we must make conscious choices to do so.
To develop a new habit, you must consciously experience four states of mind -- awareness, knowledge, desire, and action.
Awareness comes from noticing what you're doing and when and where you're doing it. For instance, let's take the habit of making judgments about another person. The what is thinking about another's actions and their reasons for them. You judge that their actions, comments, or appearance are wrong. The when is when someone mentions their name, you're having a conversation with them, or you pass by the street on which they live. In this case, the where is wherever you happen to be.
Knowledge about your habit is the next state of mind to consider. What are some reasons we might judge others? Judgments about others usually come from our own insecurity. We feel we need to make others "look bad" so we'll "look good." Our judgments about others don't take away from the other person's worth. Neither do they add to our own feelings of worth. Our judgments have a negative impact on us -- we spend much time and energy attempting to diminish another person's value when we could use that same time and energy to build our sense of worth. Judgments also result from our belief that there is one right way [our way!] to do everything. If we judge another's appearance, we're assuming that there is a "right" and "wrong" way to dress and that they chose the wrong way. In the big scheme of things, what difference does it really make how one dresses? So learning about the impact that our habit has on ourselves and others is important. If we're vocal about our judgments, this habit can hurt another's feelings and reputation. It can be the source of contention between us and others.
Awareness and knowledge alone will not lead to behavior change. The facts about smoking are well-known. There are still millions of smokers in our society.
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