13 Reasons to Search for Signs of Infidelity if You Suspect an Extramarital Affair
Ruth Houston
October 30, 2007
When it comes to cheating spouses and extramarital affairs, ignorance is not bliss. If you think your spouse might be cheating, it’s to your advantage to search for signs of infidelity, so you can confirm or disprove what you suspect. Here are 13 compelling reasons why:
1. To put your mind at ease.
Suspecting your spouse of infidelity can cause you endless days of worry and many sleepless nights. If your spouse isn’t cheating, what a big relief it will be to find out your suspicions were untrue. The sooner you do this, the sooner you can stop worrying and get on with your life.
2. To keep unfounded suspicions from poisoning your marriage and your mind.
No matter how carefully you try to conceal what you suspect, the very thought that your spouse might be cheating will poison your mind and cause you to view him or her in a different light. This will eventually spill over into other aspects of your marriage like your sex life, or the way you interact with your spouse, just to name a few. Finding out your suspicions were unfounded can restore balance and breathe new life into your marriage.
3. To find out exactly what you’re dealing with.
If your spouse has been acting strangely, it may be because he or she is cheating on you. But the reason for their strange behavior may be totally unrelated to infidelity. There may be some other problem that’s threatening the stability of your marriage. Discreetly searching for telltale signs will help you pinpoint what’s really going on.
4. To gain control of the situation.
You can feel like a helpless victim if you’re not really sure what’s going on. Taking matters into your own hands will be therapeutic, and will keep you from getting swept along with the tide. If your search for signs of infidelity confirms that an affair is indeed going on, the ball will be in your court. Knowledge is power. You can take control by making an informed decision as to exactly which plan of action to take.
5. To short-circuit an affair in the making.
Most affairs happen in stages. People generally don’t become cheating spouses overnight. Your spouse may not have actually cheated yet, but may be seriously entertaining “pre-infidelity thoughts”. Detecting the warning signs of impending infidelity gives you a chance to stop the affair before it starts.
6. To determine whether or not your marriage is in jeopardy.
All affairs are not the same. Some pose a more serious threat than others. Things may not be as bad as you think they are – or they could be a whole lot worse. The type of telltale signs you find will give you some insight as to whether your spouse is merely having a fling, or whether there’s something much more serious going on.
7. To prepare yourself emotionally for the possibility that your spouse may leave.
If your spouse’s extramarital affair reaches the point that he or she decides to leave you for someone else, wouldn’t you rather know in advance, instead of being taken by surprise? As devastating as it may be, knowing that this is a possibility, gives you time to mentally and emotionally adjust to the idea.
8. To protect yourself sexually.
If your spouse is having unprotected sex with someone else, you are at risk for contracting herpes, HIV/AIDS and a host of other sexually-transmitted diseases. Your health – your very life, may be at stake. If you find signs of an extramarital affair, protect yourself by practicing safe sex.
9. To take steps to protect yourself (and your children) financially.
You may need to put some financial safeguards in place if your spouse is involved in an affair that leads to divorce. An unexpected divorce can put an unsuspecting spouse in a serious financial bind. If your search for signs of infidelity indicates that a divorce is in the works, you can’t afford to be the last to know. You need ample time to prepare for the upcoming financial upheaval in your life.
10. To seek legal counsel and find out your rights.
If you find telltale signs that your spouse is cheating, it’s to your advantage to consult with an attorney who specializes in matrimonial law to find out your legal rights. It can’t hurt to find out ahead of time what your legal rights or obligations would be with regard to alimony, child support, division of marital assets, etc -- just in case the affair leads to a divorce.
11. To gather evidence of infidelity so you can confront your spouse about the affair.
Experts all agree that if you have proof that your spouse is cheating, you should confront them and tell them you know about the affair. This in itself may bring things to a halt. In many cases, once the affair has been discovered, it loses most of its appeal. Exposing the affair may be all you need to get your marriage back on track.
12. To give yourself an opportunity to save your marriage.
To give yourself an opportunity to save your marriage. Finding signs of infidelity can be a blessing in disguise. The first step in solving a problem is knowing the problem exists. If you know your spouse is cheating, you now have a fighting chance save your marriage before it’s too late. With professional help you may be able to save your marriage from an unnecessary divorce.
13. To focus your energy in the right direction.
You can waste endless time and energy speculating on whether or not your spouse is having an affair. You’ll be in a constant state of emotional limbo until you find out for sure. Don’t speculate. Investigate. Search for telltale signs of infidelity. The kind of signs you find can tell you a lot. Once you get a clear picture of what’s going on, you can figure out what your next move should be.
Safeguard Your Relationship - Know the Telltale Signs
As devastating as it may be to find out that your spouse is cheating on you, not knowing can be a whole lot worse. That’s why it’s to your advantage to search for signs of infidelity, if you think your spouse might be having an affair. In this day and age, there are many practical reasons why you can’t afford to be the last to know. By the time you find out, it may be too late.
Your search for signs of infidelity need not be expensive or time-consuming. You don’t need a private investigator or surveillance equipment to find out the truth. Knowing what to look for is the key.
If you know what to look for, spotting the signs of infidelity will take very little effort on your part. All you need are your own eyes and ears, and your personal knowledge of your mate. A good infidelity reference book can also be a big help. Of all the infidelity books on the market, Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs is the only one that lists practically every known sign of infidelity. It even includes the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men. For more information, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com
FREE Report
To get a better idea of what to look for if you suspect an extramarital affair, request the free report which describes the 21 major categories of infidelity signs and the kind of telltale signs each category contains. For your free copy, e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words “21 categories-ac” in the subject line.
1. To put your mind at ease.
Suspecting your spouse of infidelity can cause you endless days of worry and many sleepless nights. If your spouse isn’t cheating, what a big relief it will be to find out your suspicions were untrue. The sooner you do this, the sooner you can stop worrying and get on with your life.
2. To keep unfounded suspicions from poisoning your marriage and your mind.
No matter how carefully you try to conceal what you suspect, the very thought that your spouse might be cheating will poison your mind and cause you to view him or her in a different light. This will eventually spill over into other aspects of your marriage like your sex life, or the way you interact with your spouse, just to name a few. Finding out your suspicions were unfounded can restore balance and breathe new life into your marriage.
3. To find out exactly what you’re dealing with.
If your spouse has been acting strangely, it may be because he or she is cheating on you. But the reason for their strange behavior may be totally unrelated to infidelity. There may be some other problem that’s threatening the stability of your marriage. Discreetly searching for telltale signs will help you pinpoint what’s really going on.
4. To gain control of the situation.
You can feel like a helpless victim if you’re not really sure what’s going on. Taking matters into your own hands will be therapeutic, and will keep you from getting swept along with the tide. If your search for signs of infidelity confirms that an affair is indeed going on, the ball will be in your court. Knowledge is power. You can take control by making an informed decision as to exactly which plan of action to take.
5. To short-circuit an affair in the making.
Most affairs happen in stages. People generally don’t become cheating spouses overnight. Your spouse may not have actually cheated yet, but may be seriously entertaining “pre-infidelity thoughts”. Detecting the warning signs of impending infidelity gives you a chance to stop the affair before it starts.
6. To determine whether or not your marriage is in jeopardy.
All affairs are not the same. Some pose a more serious threat than others. Things may not be as bad as you think they are – or they could be a whole lot worse. The type of telltale signs you find will give you some insight as to whether your spouse is merely having a fling, or whether there’s something much more serious going on.
7. To prepare yourself emotionally for the possibility that your spouse may leave.
If your spouse’s extramarital affair reaches the point that he or she decides to leave you for someone else, wouldn’t you rather know in advance, instead of being taken by surprise? As devastating as it may be, knowing that this is a possibility, gives you time to mentally and emotionally adjust to the idea.
8. To protect yourself sexually.
If your spouse is having unprotected sex with someone else, you are at risk for contracting herpes, HIV/AIDS and a host of other sexually-transmitted diseases. Your health – your very life, may be at stake. If you find signs of an extramarital affair, protect yourself by practicing safe sex.
9. To take steps to protect yourself (and your children) financially.
You may need to put some financial safeguards in place if your spouse is involved in an affair that leads to divorce. An unexpected divorce can put an unsuspecting spouse in a serious financial bind. If your search for signs of infidelity indicates that a divorce is in the works, you can’t afford to be the last to know. You need ample time to prepare for the upcoming financial upheaval in your life.
10. To seek legal counsel and find out your rights.
If you find telltale signs that your spouse is cheating, it’s to your advantage to consult with an attorney who specializes in matrimonial law to find out your legal rights. It can’t hurt to find out ahead of time what your legal rights or obligations would be with regard to alimony, child support, division of marital assets, etc -- just in case the affair leads to a divorce.
11. To gather evidence of infidelity so you can confront your spouse about the affair.
Experts all agree that if you have proof that your spouse is cheating, you should confront them and tell them you know about the affair. This in itself may bring things to a halt. In many cases, once the affair has been discovered, it loses most of its appeal. Exposing the affair may be all you need to get your marriage back on track.
12. To give yourself an opportunity to save your marriage.
To give yourself an opportunity to save your marriage. Finding signs of infidelity can be a blessing in disguise. The first step in solving a problem is knowing the problem exists. If you know your spouse is cheating, you now have a fighting chance save your marriage before it’s too late. With professional help you may be able to save your marriage from an unnecessary divorce.
13. To focus your energy in the right direction.
You can waste endless time and energy speculating on whether or not your spouse is having an affair. You’ll be in a constant state of emotional limbo until you find out for sure. Don’t speculate. Investigate. Search for telltale signs of infidelity. The kind of signs you find can tell you a lot. Once you get a clear picture of what’s going on, you can figure out what your next move should be.
Safeguard Your Relationship - Know the Telltale Signs
As devastating as it may be to find out that your spouse is cheating on you, not knowing can be a whole lot worse. That’s why it’s to your advantage to search for signs of infidelity, if you think your spouse might be having an affair. In this day and age, there are many practical reasons why you can’t afford to be the last to know. By the time you find out, it may be too late.
Your search for signs of infidelity need not be expensive or time-consuming. You don’t need a private investigator or surveillance equipment to find out the truth. Knowing what to look for is the key.
If you know what to look for, spotting the signs of infidelity will take very little effort on your part. All you need are your own eyes and ears, and your personal knowledge of your mate. A good infidelity reference book can also be a big help. Of all the infidelity books on the market, Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs is the only one that lists practically every known sign of infidelity. It even includes the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men. For more information, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com
FREE Report
To get a better idea of what to look for if you suspect an extramarital affair, request the free report which describes the 21 major categories of infidelity signs and the kind of telltale signs each category contains. For your free copy, e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words “21 categories-ac” in the subject line.
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