Why Hillary Clinton and Other Wives Stay with Husbands Who Cheat
Ruth Houston
January 20, 2008
Hillary Clinton´s interview on the Tyra Banks Show has once again raised the question of why many women choose to stay with cheating husbands rather than filing for divorce.
It´s hard for many women to understand why a woman like Hillary Clinton would stay married to a husband like Bill Clinton who reportedly has a history of extramarital affairs, and is rumored to have cheated on her on more than one occasion ( Monica Lewinsky, Gennifer Flowers, and Paula Jones)
Reasons Women Stay with Cheating Men
Below are just a few of the many reasons wives choose to stay with husbands who cheat:
Love
Convenience
Financial reasons
Not willing to give up lifestyle
Insufficient proof of infidelity
For the sake of the children
Fear of change
Low self-esteem
Bad timing
Thinking the cheater will change
To achieve career goals
Hoping counseling will help
Fear of being alone
Loyalty
Religious beliefs
Desire to keep the family intact
Belief that it won´t happen again
But there could be other reasons, as well -- reasons which make sense only to the woman involved.
In the end, it comes down to a woman doing what she feels is in her (and her children´s) best interests.
In her interview with Tyra Banks, Hillary Clinton stated "I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family."
A Woman Shouldn´t Have to Explain
Having been a victim of infidelity myself, I feel that no woman – not even Hillary Clinton -- should have to explain or defend her decision to anyone (other than her children) why she has chosen to leave or to stay with a husband who cheats.
Choosing to leave, or to stay with a cheating spouse is a personal matter. Some women may make a spur the moment decision when they find out about the affair. And many times they may regret their choice. For other women, whether to stay or leave is a well-thought-out decision in which many factors have been taken into consideration.
So, while we can speculate, no one can presume to know the real reasons Hillary chose to stay with Bill, except Hillary Clinton, herself.
What NOT to Do When a Husband Cheats
Friends, family members – even total strangers – who know about the affair like to weigh in on what a woman should do when she finds out about her husband´s affair.
After 15 years of researching male and female infidelity, and consulting regularly with victims of infidelity, I´ve found that it´s more important to know what NOT to do after the discovery of an extramarital affair..
Many women react blindly when they find out about their husband or boyfriend is having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge cause them to do things they later regret.
Regardless of whether a woman ultimately decides to stay with the cheater or leave him, doing the wrong thing in the initial stages of discovery will only make a bad situation worse. It can even sabotage the course of action she later decides to take. Hillary Clinton was wise to avoid making a decision in the heat of the moment, and to take ample time to think through the situation and decide what was right for her.
For Hillary Clinton, the right decision was to stay. For me, the right decision was to leave. ( I´ve been happily married for 8 years now to a man whose first wife cheated on him) Each woman must decide for herself. The most important thing to do is avoid making a mistake that can undermine the final course of action you decide to take.
FREE Tips on How to Avoid Making a Mistake
If your spouse or significant other is having an affair, I have a special report entitled 5 Things You SHOULDN'T Do If He´s Cheating on You, which can help you avoid making a fatal mistake. It covers five things you should avoid doing immediately after discovering the extramarital affair, and examines the reasons why. For your FREE copy, email InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with 5 things-ac in the subject line.
For more information on infidelity, cheating spouses, and extramarital affairs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com or http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert, Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.
Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, Newsday, msnbc.com, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle and numerous other print and online media worldwide.
Ruth has also been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, ABC News, NBC News, 1010WINS, Court TV Radio, BBC, CBC, and over 360 other radio and TV shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, the Caribbean, South America, Australia and New Zealand.
To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com or http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com
It´s hard for many women to understand why a woman like Hillary Clinton would stay married to a husband like Bill Clinton who reportedly has a history of extramarital affairs, and is rumored to have cheated on her on more than one occasion ( Monica Lewinsky, Gennifer Flowers, and Paula Jones)
Reasons Women Stay with Cheating Men
Below are just a few of the many reasons wives choose to stay with husbands who cheat:
Love
Convenience
Financial reasons
Not willing to give up lifestyle
Insufficient proof of infidelity
For the sake of the children
Fear of change
Low self-esteem
Bad timing
Thinking the cheater will change
To achieve career goals
Hoping counseling will help
Fear of being alone
Loyalty
Religious beliefs
Desire to keep the family intact
Belief that it won´t happen again
But there could be other reasons, as well -- reasons which make sense only to the woman involved.
In the end, it comes down to a woman doing what she feels is in her (and her children´s) best interests.
In her interview with Tyra Banks, Hillary Clinton stated "I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family."
A Woman Shouldn´t Have to Explain
Having been a victim of infidelity myself, I feel that no woman – not even Hillary Clinton -- should have to explain or defend her decision to anyone (other than her children) why she has chosen to leave or to stay with a husband who cheats.
Choosing to leave, or to stay with a cheating spouse is a personal matter. Some women may make a spur the moment decision when they find out about the affair. And many times they may regret their choice. For other women, whether to stay or leave is a well-thought-out decision in which many factors have been taken into consideration.
So, while we can speculate, no one can presume to know the real reasons Hillary chose to stay with Bill, except Hillary Clinton, herself.
What NOT to Do When a Husband Cheats
Friends, family members – even total strangers – who know about the affair like to weigh in on what a woman should do when she finds out about her husband´s affair.
After 15 years of researching male and female infidelity, and consulting regularly with victims of infidelity, I´ve found that it´s more important to know what NOT to do after the discovery of an extramarital affair..
Many women react blindly when they find out about their husband or boyfriend is having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge cause them to do things they later regret.
Regardless of whether a woman ultimately decides to stay with the cheater or leave him, doing the wrong thing in the initial stages of discovery will only make a bad situation worse. It can even sabotage the course of action she later decides to take. Hillary Clinton was wise to avoid making a decision in the heat of the moment, and to take ample time to think through the situation and decide what was right for her.
For Hillary Clinton, the right decision was to stay. For me, the right decision was to leave. ( I´ve been happily married for 8 years now to a man whose first wife cheated on him) Each woman must decide for herself. The most important thing to do is avoid making a mistake that can undermine the final course of action you decide to take.
FREE Tips on How to Avoid Making a Mistake
If your spouse or significant other is having an affair, I have a special report entitled 5 Things You SHOULDN'T Do If He´s Cheating on You, which can help you avoid making a fatal mistake. It covers five things you should avoid doing immediately after discovering the extramarital affair, and examines the reasons why. For your FREE copy, email InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with 5 things-ac in the subject line.
For more information on infidelity, cheating spouses, and extramarital affairs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com or http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert, Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.
Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, Newsday, msnbc.com, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle and numerous other print and online media worldwide.
Ruth has also been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, ABC News, NBC News, 1010WINS, Court TV Radio, BBC, CBC, and over 360 other radio and TV shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, the Caribbean, South America, Australia and New Zealand.
To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com or http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com
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