How Accepting Of Others Are You, Really?
Judy Ramsook
March 04, 2006
If some one has one or more older siblings, or a friend with admirable qualities, this has probably happened at some time or another.
At some point, some one has said whether in humorous fashion or seriously, why can’t you be more lke so and so. A clear indication that most people seldom like or accept us for who we are.
They want you to be like some one else or for the most part adopt some of that person's traits and or qualities. One can see the reason for this if some one has really bad qualities, but if this is not the case, are some people in our midst just too fussy when it comes to accepting others?
When being introduced to a new friend, for instance, we are attracted to such a person because he or she might like the same things you like.
Then later on down the road of this friendship, as both individuals become more acquainted with one another, more things about each other are discovered. It is at this point, one might begin to weigh certain things or qualities.
If, it has been learned that such a friend has what you consider to be an undesirable or bad habit you will not tolerate, will you try to distance yourself from such a person, or will you stick around, hoping that he or she would soon drop that bad habit? How accepting will you be then?
On the other hand, what if that new friend is what you would consider to not be ambitious enough? Say he or she has a minimum wage paying job, does not see the need for a college degree and lives a less than luxurious life in an efficiency apartment, but say he or she has all the admirable qualities you have been looking for in a person, what would you do?
Would you stay around such an individual because you have looking far and wide for a while for a person who has all those qualities, or will you turn and walk away because you do not like the other aspects about his or her life?
Accepting others for who they are might not seem as easy as it sounds. There are layers of things to consider and qualities to tolerate.
Most importantly though, before one can accept some one else for who he or she is, first he must accept him or herself For it is then some one can have an appreciation for others; appreciate and accept yourself first.
At some point, some one has said whether in humorous fashion or seriously, why can’t you be more lke so and so. A clear indication that most people seldom like or accept us for who we are.
They want you to be like some one else or for the most part adopt some of that person's traits and or qualities. One can see the reason for this if some one has really bad qualities, but if this is not the case, are some people in our midst just too fussy when it comes to accepting others?
When being introduced to a new friend, for instance, we are attracted to such a person because he or she might like the same things you like.
Then later on down the road of this friendship, as both individuals become more acquainted with one another, more things about each other are discovered. It is at this point, one might begin to weigh certain things or qualities.
If, it has been learned that such a friend has what you consider to be an undesirable or bad habit you will not tolerate, will you try to distance yourself from such a person, or will you stick around, hoping that he or she would soon drop that bad habit? How accepting will you be then?
On the other hand, what if that new friend is what you would consider to not be ambitious enough? Say he or she has a minimum wage paying job, does not see the need for a college degree and lives a less than luxurious life in an efficiency apartment, but say he or she has all the admirable qualities you have been looking for in a person, what would you do?
Would you stay around such an individual because you have looking far and wide for a while for a person who has all those qualities, or will you turn and walk away because you do not like the other aspects about his or her life?
Accepting others for who they are might not seem as easy as it sounds. There are layers of things to consider and qualities to tolerate.
Most importantly though, before one can accept some one else for who he or she is, first he must accept him or herself For it is then some one can have an appreciation for others; appreciate and accept yourself first.
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